Kenneth Play, international sex hacking expert/educator, former top fitness professional, and private celebrity fitness and sex-ed coach, sat down with Cosmopolitan Magazine to discuss his feelings on something we’re all excited about when it comes to our Lifestyle, the swinger parties.
Swinger parties can be intimidating! What do you wear? What do you bring? What are the rules?
We’re going to break down the advice from one of our favorite ‘sex-perts’ for you here.
Swinger Parties: What To Wear
“Firstly, I choose something to wear that is functional. In a play-party scenario, this often means something that has a pocket or pouch that allows me to store essentials like lube & condoms. That way, I’m never without what I need as the evening unfolds.” says Kenneth.
Let’s face it, when it comes to swinger parties, most of us are not there to just make friends. Be functional. When it gets down to ‘go time’ you won’t want to be empty-handed, literally. Having a place to keep the essentials like your condoms, lube and any other protection will prevent that awkward moment telling your new sexy friends to “hold on a minute” while you go hunt down the necessary items. Gents, nice slacks or jeans (depending on the feel of the party), or ladies, having a small clutch purse in case that little black dress has no pockets will work just fine.
“Secondly, I want to make sure that I am expressing myself in my own, eye-catching way. When I was younger, I worried that people would think I ‘looked gay’ if I expressed myself the way I do now. I have always been keen on bright and showy clothing and patterns but I was anxious that anything ‘too’ coordinated, pretty, or colorful would make me unattractive to women – but now I find this is far from the truth!”
One of the few golden rules for swinger parties is always Dress To Impress! Think about not only dressing sexy but in something that makes you FEEL sexy. Walking around feeling sexy will show, and this will go a long way when it comes to attracting couples to you and your partner. Don’t be afraid to go crazy and be yourselves when you attend a party like this. We’re all here to impress and be impressed. You can never truly tell what will be the main attractor for each and every couple. So why not show your own unique style?
“Many women do not find themselves expressly lusting after a man in off-white tighty whiteys or basic boxers, and actually, the more sexually expressive I’ve become, the more attention I have attracted. The idea of defending how hetero I was in a sexual environment didn’t make sense after a while and just felt unnecessary. When I let go of that defense, I found more internal freedom, which was followed by the external freedom of wearing what I want and expressing myself.
I like peacocking. I like making myself more noticeable and expressing my sexuality and my own comfort level with sexuality. I get more attention at play parties now and as a bonus, I feel more comfortable when I’m expressing myself confidently. There is a long list of species from the animal kingdom where it is the male that uses his bright colors, flashy patterns, or stunning poses to attract a mate, and that expression should be embraced in humans who want to be flashy as well!”
Swinger Parties: What To Bring
Along with what to wear, what you bring to a swinger party can make or break your night as well.
We’ve already mentioned some of the most important things earlier in this blog. You’ve always got to make sure to bring your protection, condom and lubes. Safer sex practices show not only that you care about your safety and the safety of those you play with, but it can also show a couple who aren’t new to this lifestyle, who are secure and know what it means to really be a swinger.
When Cosmopolitan Magazine asked Kenneth what he likes to pack in his ‘sex go-bag’ here is what he let them know.
“I laid out all my must-have toys, safer sex supplies, and the other pro items I always want to have on hand at a Play Party. There are some great ideas for putting together your own bag, and be sure to check out what the others had to share. Many of the items allow you to click through and purchase online to be added to your sexy suitcase!”
Read the whole article, including other sex experts, here: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a6805477/sex-party-regular-go-bags/
Clockwise from Top Left:
- Collar
- Wrist and ankle cuffs
- TRUST single-serving massage oil
- nJoy Pure Wand
- nJoy Pure Plug
- nJoy Eleven
- LELO HEX Condom
- Paddle
- Three floggers
- Over-the-clothes vibrator
- Happy Kitten rope
- erin houdini nylon rope
- Collar and leash
- LELO Hugo remote-controlled prostate massager
- LELO TIANI 24K remote-controlled couples’ vibrator
- Crave Vesper vibrating necklace
- Nipple clamps
- Rechargeable Hitachi Magic Wand
- Gloves to use as a fluid barrier
- Custom vulva puppet with a detachable clitoris for teaching moments
- Suitcase to carry it all
Swinger Parties: What To Do? What Are The Rules?
This topic is always a little fluid in the correct answers. You just have to know your crowd, be normal and above all respect everyone’s rules and limitations. When it comes down to play time, if you are on board one of our many cruises or at a club and take it to the playroom, we’ve even created a very good Playroom Etiquette post for you to read. However, never forget the most important set of rules. “Yes means yes, no means no, and maybe means no.” as well as “Consent is Sexy“.
Are you intrigued and want to implement your new-found knowledge on board our cruises? We have so many fantastic options to choose from. Browse our full Cruise Calendar here.
Give us a call in the office when you are ready to book! Our agents are excited and ready to help you have ‘The Best F#cking Vacation!”
